Ever wondered why we have bridesmaids and where this ceremonial tradition evolved? Wonder no longer! I am about to give you a brief history lesson so prepare yourself for some fun Friday facts... Bridesmaids were believed by Romans to protect the Bride from evil spirits (meaning ghosts and ghouls rather than vodka) that attempt to curse the newly wedded couple with bad luck. The main difference between Romans and 21st century bridesmaids is that Roman bridesmaids were required to dress extremely similar and often identically to the bride - to confuse the spirits. So if a guest completely upstages you at your own wedding wearing white, she's actually protecting you from evil and you should make her your new best friend (ha!).
My personal favourite choice of bridesmaid attire: bright and bold dresses. Either with a statement waist band or a simplistic pattern e.g. polka dots for that vintage effect. There is a lot of room for creativity when it comes to bridesmaids, obviously you want your bridal party to love their outfits as much as you do but if you're keeping a very classy chic look for yourself, you can basically be as calm or crazy as you want with their dresses. Another idea that I LOVE, which works best with a bridal party of various ages, shapes and sizes, is a different dress for each bridesmaid - keeping the same colour scheme but with the shape that flatters each bridesmaid best (of course this is probably a more pricey and time consuming option than buying 4x the same dress but nevertheless a fabulous idea). Or of course if you want to follow fully in the Roman tradition go all out and provide your bridesmaids with a shield and javelin to protect you from the evil spirits that come in the form of drunken guests.
Ultimately, the decision of making your wedding a kiddie-free zone depends on the percentage of baby buzz amongst your nearest and dearest (aka how many proud parents you have to awkwardly disappoint ha!). On a serious note - it is neither a law nor a tradition that children have to be invited to a wedding, leaving it completely open for discussion between the comfort of your partner and yourself. However, if you happen to be sitting on the fence over which Disney character to re-enact (Cruella or Poppins), then here are a few pros and cons of an infant involved day:
- Firstly, consider if you invite children to your wedding, roughly how many would there be to invite? And if you want to invite one child does that mean you have to invite all? (Is it really easy to tell one relative they can bring their well behaved babe along and another relative it's a no to their troublesome tot)
- One of the really enjoyable benefits of having children involved in your wedding, in particular within the bridal party is that they bring fun and cheeky innocence which can aid the adults to feel more relaxed and ease the circulating nerves.
- On the other hand, if the child/ren is not familiar with the rest of the bridal party, spending the day in an unusual place with people you don't know can be a daunting prospect.
- Pictures of kids at weddings give you that "IT'S SO FLUFFY I'M GONNA DIE!" feeling (if you're not a Despicable Me fan that reference will have left you clueless). Bundles of cuteness oozing from their little heads through to their little toes!
- Yawn! Children have a short attention span (like males). They LOVE the idea of a party but the ceremony is nothing but a bore! - Children's entertainment helps but remember there is a lot of boring grown up stuff before then.
- Everything is a lot more child friendly now: churches, venues, even the food! And if there can be childcare arranged for when the tiredness becomes too much for the kids and the need to party becomes unbearable for the parents, then it's the best of both worlds!
Whatever you decide to do, I will leave you with this image. I think it perfectly captures that 'cheeky innonence' I referred to previously in this post!
Another glorious day of skin bronzing sunshine! If only we could be blessed with guaranteed warm weather from June to September (And guaranteed goals from England... ha!) But those wedding planners out there do not fear!! Wind, rain, sunshine or snow, there is always a plan B.. plan C.. or plan D. A good photographer (hint hint) should know their venues inside and out and should therefore have the knowledge and creativity to improvise when the weather isn't performing in your favour. If you've forked out a small fortune to enjoy the perfect day with the perfect portraits to prove it, (try to say that out loud without spitting!) then why should you suffer because of unpredictable British weather? The answer is - you shouldn't! You want your wedding to be superior, unlike any other, the day everyone you know is boasting about for months. So when you wake up on your big day, shaking with nerves and contemplating doing a runner and you look out the window to be greeted by a sky lined with thunder threatening clouds, do NOT be fooled into thinking that it spells out disaster for the rest of the day. Instead, take it as another opportunity to add to your incomparable, extraordinary experience. After all, if it's true what they say "every cloud has a silver lining"; maybe that silver(or platinum) circle that fits around your finger! If the sun shines you, your partner, your friends and family will be captured in a warm glow. If the rain pours, the wash of water will highlight the bold, sharp and picturesque colours of nature that surround you and force appreciation upon the breath-taking imagery offered by your idyllic venue. If the snow falls, you will be blessed by a sheet of crisp and white beauty. And if the wind blows it's a natural back-comb that will give your hairdresser the morning off (ha).
Just rememeber that there is a positive for every negative! Happy Friday!